28-year-old refuses to pay for their 14 and 15-year-old step siblings' education, spends their savings on their bio siblings tuition instead as promised: 'Dad accused me of “punishing” his wife’s kids'

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Sep 18, 2025 8:00 PM EDT

The oldest sibling scored a high-paying job in the tech industry, but that doesn't suddenly make them the third parent of 4 teenagers. Although this 28-year-old promised her bio siblings that she would help them pay for college, she didn't expect to spend all of her savings throwing her new step-siblings on the invoice as well, but her dad and his new family thought otherwise. 

Older siblings really do become the third parent, don't they?

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  • It's a parent's responsibility to take care of their child, not the oldest sibling. While the eldest gets stuck occasionally, stepping up and being responsible, financially, they should never have to support their siblings. This older sibling decided to do so out of the kindness of her own heart, but when she gave them 2 college tuitions, the greedy parents asked for 4 instead. Sorry, Dad, but I don't know my step-siblings, and perhaps it's time for you to get a second job to follow through on your own parenting responsibilities…

  • AITA for not paying for my dad's new wife's kids' college when I promised to cover my siblings'?
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  • I (28F) make good money in tech. A few years ago, I told my two younger siblings (19M, 17F) that when the time came, I'd help pay for their college since my dad couldn't.
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  • They were thrilled, and I've been saving specifically for them. Recently, my dad remarried a woman (36F) who has two kids (16M, 15F).
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  • Now he's pressuring me to "be fair" and split my savings four ways instead of two. He says they're "family now" and it's selfish to "pick favorites."
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  • But I never made that promise to them. I don't even know them well, and I worked hard to set aside money for my siblings.
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  • My dad called me cold. and accused me of "punishing" his wife's kids just because they're not blood- related. My siblings are upset too, they feel like their future is being stolen.
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  • My stepmom keeps saying "love makes a family," but I don't think it means I should foot the bill. AITA for refusing to split the money?
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  • Material Cellist41 NTA But just say... "I will match whatever stepmother put an into my bio-siblings fund. You know
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  • so we can keep everything good and fair. Because if we are doing something for her kids, she needs to do something for my siblings." They won't say much after that.
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  • BreakfastOk163. NTA you made a promise to your siblings and you are keeping it. These other children have (presumably) two parents who are
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  • responsible for their education. Your dad should be thrilled you are helping your own siblings, that's actually his job.
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  • Decent_Front4647 . NTA. They're just trying to manipulate you to get what they want.
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  • OverRice2524 I'd just agree. Yep, I'm not paying money to people who aren't blod related to me. Your dad chose to remarry, he chose his new wife and their children, you didn't. He
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  • doesn't get to insist you suddenly pay for two strangers. Guess it's time for him to get a 2nd job. NTA
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